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Banter, Jokes & Hurt Feelings

Yes, we all want to be included in the fun, but it can get “out of hand” at work. The US vs THEM can get intimidating. As a woman in technology, I still remember the football jokes and less than gentle teasing, I have worked in teams that are at least 3/4 men my whole career. I don’t understand most football rules, and would rather enjoy baseball. At this time of year, the early morning meetings with 10 minutes on football scores were boring, but every once in awhile I’d try to say something…. usually not well received. OK, it’s meant to be fun, but sometimes the banter feels bad. (and then nobody feels good)

An excerpt from the Lead Star group, is really a good list of “best practices” when talking about the Super Bowl, coming up:

Trash talk is alive and well in our culture. It’s certainly alive and well this week as we approach the Super Bowl. You might be participating in office pools, and there might be some friendly fan vs fan banter. If we are honest, there might be some unfriendly banter, too, which is why I’m writing this Leadership Moment. I’ve got some good guidelines around what’s funny, and what’s not, when it comes to workplace humor:

  • First, it’s not funny if you’re the only one laughing. A good joke involves everyone.
  • Don’t use humor to put someone down; use it to bring them up!
  • Don’t try too hard. If you have to force it, it’s probably not that funny anyway.
  • ALWAYS think before you speak. If it involves race, gender, orientation, ethnicity, it’s a “no go”. Don’t ever do it.
  • Make fun of things or events, not people.
  • If you want to start a joke by saying, “I probably shouldn’t say this, but…” then you probably shouldn’t say it. Doubt means “don’t.”

Remember: it’s just sports. I get it. Some people take their teams quite seriously. Think about the relationship and what you value more — a quick laugh or a friendship. If you feel moved to say “C’mon, I was just kidding!” or “Can’t you take a joke?” after you launch a joke, chances are you crossed a line. This is a time when you should apologize swiftly and take responsibility.

  • excerpt from Patrick Nelson, Lead Star newsletter

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